All those “and they lived happily ever after” fairy tale endings need to be changed to “and they began the very hard work of making their marriage happy.” (Author, Linda Miles)
Now that I’ve got your attention, the words I’m referring to are Separation and Divorce. These two words come with misconceptions and permissive attitudes. We create a myth of what a happy home should look like, and then we want to bail out as soon as the going gets tough. Many people also have some preconceived notion that when you are separated…it’s okay to date other people. Well let’s set the record straight now.
God said he hates divorce, (Malachi 2:16) and the only reason he allowed it was for marital unfaithfulness, because of the “hardening of our hearts”. Know that when we separate what God has put together, it grieves Him. Divorce will impact your life in many, many ways….God has joined you together as one flesh, you can best believe there will be painful wounds and scars if you tear apart from the one you are joined to.
If you are separated….then you are STILL married, and it’s still committing adultery. You really must be careful and keep from involving yourself with persons of the opposite sex. Your heart will be vulnerable and you must guard it carefully. You need time to heal, & focus on how to reconnect with your spouse. Many people end up getting divorced primarily because when they separated they began “seeing” someone else which blinds you and keeps you in darkness. The grass is NEVER as green on the other side as it seems from a distance so don’t allow another relationship to short circuit the healing and restoration with your spouse. Draw from Gods strength and rest in Him and His peace and guidance. Remember…what God has joined together, let no man separate.
